You’ve probably heard the saying that your network will determine your net worth. If this saying is true, which I believe, why aren’t many people doing a good job of networking given the ease with which one can establish relationship on social networking sites (SNSs)? Of course one of the reasons is that the ease of networking also brings along with it a high risk of networking with the wrong people.
Beyond the above-mentioned risk is the fact that a lot of people don’t know how to make their network work for them and not against them. The focus of this article is not to discuss dos and don’t of networking but to look at the reason(s) anyone should consider being on an SNS. Those who are on an SNS could also pick some ideas with which they can rejuvenate the use to which they put their presence on the sites.
Arguments against being on social networking sites
After joining Facebook, I have spoken to a couple of friends with the aim of convincing them to also join. Some of the reasons they gave for not joining vary from not having time to the unserious attitude of most users. One friend said he joined but left because most of the men are busy chasing women! Another one said people may end up using what you share on such sites against you in the future!
One question I always ask them is that they should tell me anything that is valuable in life that has not been put to a bad use (abused). Is it money or information technology? Just name it. God’s word says “He who finds a wife find a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord” (Proverbs18:22). Another portion of the scripture says, “Behold children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb is a reward” (Psalm 127:3). Now, who are the people most abused all over the world? Your guess is good as mine – women (wives) and children. Has this stopped anybody from getting married or having children?
At the end of our discussion, such friends almost always agree with my viewpoint and admit they never thought of SNSs the way I had put it across to them. My mindset is to be a positive influence on people I interact with, either physically or online. That one can interact with a lot more people at the same time via SNS makes it a better networking tool.
Are there justifications?
I have no right to criticize those that see no justifications for being on social networking site (SNS) because I didn’t join the ones I am on (Facebook and Twitter) until 2010 when I resigned from paid employment. If there’s any weakness I have, it’s the fact that I am not very good at multitasking. I couldn’t have been a good SNS member while on the job because of the enormous demand being on an SNS would have placed on my time. The two uses I previously had for the internet were: email messaging and information gathering (using search engines). So I can understand why anybody may not want to join an SNS.
However, what I lack in multitasking ability, I make up for in being a critical thinker about anything I am involved in. Having being on Facebook for about 18 months, I’ve reflected deeply on my presence on this SNS and I see the following as the positive impacts: First, The ease with which you can re-establish with people you may have lost contact with is another benefit of SNSs. I believe this is the main use to which most people put their SNSs. My presence on Facebook enabled me establish contact with my cousin who assisted is developing my website. This was 14 years after we had lost contact!
Secondly, it avails you the opportunity of electronically documenting my family tree. How do I mean? With the various features of these sites, it is possible to upload pictures of all your family members so that those coming behind you can always see who their progenitors were.
Even if you couldn’t write well, that should still not be a hindrance to making an effective use of an SNS. You would do well to just upload pictures on your page. It’s said that a photograph is worth a thousand words. Jim Rohn said, “Three things you should bequeath to the future generations are your journal, your pictures and the books you read…” I agree with him. Interestingly, you could make use of your SNS to achieve these three objectives.
President Bill Clinton’s experience
In President Bill Clinton’s (42nd President of the United States of America) book – My Life – I read in the introductory chapter that his father (William Jefferson “Bill” Blythe, Jr.) died before he was born. As a result, he was always eager to meet people that knew his father so that he could get to know the kind of person his father was! Even as President, he made frantic efforts to gather information about his father.
Now imagine that the internet had been invented and SNSs were available before Mr. Blythe, Jr. died. Let’s also assume that he joined an SNS and was actively uploading his pictures, sending post about the books he read, his internal dialogue and major activities. Do you think President Clinton would have gone through all the stress he went through trying to know who his father was? I don’t think so. However, even if the internet and SNS were available, the big question still remains whether Mr. Blythe, Jr. would have joined an SNS.
You’re privileged to have all these resources here and now. It will be unfair to those coming after you if they have to go through anything untoward in trying to know who you were either for reasons of ignorance or nonchalance. These are just my thoughts. I believe you may now see reasons to be on an SNS. And if you’ve been an inactive member or an improper user, you would consider becoming a bit more active and deliberate in the things you do on your SNS. I recommend you share this article with your friends, colleagues and relations. You can also tell them to subscribe to receive articles on ‘Personal Development for Significant Living’ through the link http://waleadeniranye.com.